Dating Intentionally

The case for dating multiple people (before exclusive)

Why date one person at a time when you can be more efficient and overlap? This episode covers all things circular dating, which is meeting and getting to know a few people simultaneously before deciding who to commit to. I talk about why it's beneficial, how to do it without hurting anyone's feelings or getting exhausted and I share YOUR reasons why it might not be a good idea, just to balance it out. I also go deep into my personal experience with dating multiple people (again, before committing!).

Get Intimate: How to date before relocating for work

Hear from Christopher* a man of Asian descent in his early 30s who works in academia, which means he has to move for work frequently. Christopher is looking for a long-term relationship and takes dating seriously despite the fact that he's dating in an east coast city that he'll eventually have to leave in a few months. We talk about how he uses the apps, what he looks for and how he takes calculated risks in dating. At the end, he tells me a hilarious first date story. I learned so much from Christopher and hope you do too! 

All about relationship check-ins (and how to do them)

Think of regular check-ins with your partner as relationship maintenance. In this episode, you'll learn what a relationship check-in is, why they're beneficial and how to start the conversation with your partner about doing them. I'm also sharing my favorite method for relationship check-ins and how I brought the topic up with my current boyfriend. 

Get Intimate: How To Date Casually in Austin as a 38 y/o Woman

Hear from Yolanda Russell of The Conscious H.O.E. who shares all about what dating casually in Austin is like. Yolanda has entered the dating scene after ending a 6-year relationship with someone she was engaged to. Now she's dating casually with confidence and empowerment and I got to hear all about it! Yolanda talks about how to build self-confidence, how to navigate dating when you're not looking for anything serious and shares some pretty fun date ideas! 

Stop looking for attraction on the first date

In today's solo episode, I'm talking about attraction in early dating which comes up a lot. Do you feel like you're never attracted to anyone on the first date, therefore don't end up going on a second date? This episode breaks down why you likely won't feel attraction right away (as a woman dating men) and what to focus on instead. I talk about different types of attraction, how many dates to give it if you don't feel attracted and how to navigate attraction in general. During this episode, I share a story about how I let attraction grow with my current boyfriend who I met on Hinge. 

Get Intimate: Dating as a 42 y/o divorced dad

Hear from Scott, who's a 42 y/o man based in Australia, dating after divorce and as the father of two young boys. Scott shares all about how he approaches intentional dating after divorce, navigating tough dating schedules and how he faces the unique challenges that come up. He shares what works, what doesn't and what he's working toward. At the end of this episode, hear a funny story about how I met GB's (my boyfriend's) parents for the first time.

How to meet your next date IRL

The Dating Intentionally Podcast is back! Tired of online dating? Is it just not working for you? I'm sharing my BEST tips and tricks for meeting people in real life and finding good matches off the apps. I talk about what I've tried that actually works, how to start conversations with strangers and be more approachable. If you want to meet someone in real life to date, I've got you covered.

How to define and discuss relationship needs

In this episode, I'm sharing my 5 needs in a partner and how I figured them out. I'm also talking about how to figure out your relationship needs vs. wants and how to communicate them with the person you're dating. I also cover how to address feelings of guilt around needs and the concept of interdependence in relationships. At the end, as a bonus, I'm sharing the infamous Fisherman story - which is the story behind why a guy ended things with me over an Instagram DM. This will be the last episode in this first chapter? series? season? of Dating Intentionally. We'll be back in a few weeks with guests! 

How to approach holidays in early stage dating

There's nothing quite like the anxiety that comes with trying to figure out where to spend the holidays with your significant other! In this episode, I'm talking about how to have conversations around the holidays, approaching gifts for each other and families, and the truth about letting people down in the process of making these decisions. I'm also sharing how I'm approaching the holidays differently in my new relationship and the super embarrassing experience I had decorating a Christmas tree for the first time ever in high school. 

How to break bad habits in relationships

In this episode, I talk about how each relationship gives us an opportunity break old habits and patterns and replace them with new healthier ones. I cover specific habits I'm working on breaking in my new relationship, like not speaking my needs and keeping score. I'll also talk about relationship habits I'm working on creating, like asking more questions and prioritizing repair attempts after handling conflict with my parnter. Finally, I talk about therapy and how that's helped me in this process.